Well folks, for those of you that know me know that I'm taking things as I usually do, head on. So here's the progress report. Negotiations are moving along as I intended. I cannot get into the specifics but I can say that everything is civil, we are meeting with agreement and there are very few concessions, all of which are acceptable. No surprises. This is the product of education, planning and the application of the study that I've made of civil litigation. When this is over, look for the blogs. There is so much to put out there that quite a few of you will find more than just interesting. The information will serve many well. It's the only thing I feel just a little impatient about but (long sigh) everything is an excercise in patience. I can say that at 40, got things together, enjoying adventures in the local organic food stores and with the usual culinary research into Indian cuisine (5th curry made last night beef, musrhoom, onion all from the raw seasonings) still geek out over everything that catches my interest and most importantly raising the two boys here, although I don't think they will quite conquer the planet. We're working on this though so stay tuned. Still advising my stepdaughter from afar while she embarks on adventures in adulthood and study at university and all the usual social experiences that come of this (cringe...please be careful sweetie!) All the while managing a career in public sector that spans 15 years and growing. Professionally, I'm venturing into territory that I've long been preparing for but that is proving to be difficult to make a break into due to recent changes in the system. I'm getting along and here too is an excercise in patience and frustration. Mostly self generated but only because of the passion I have for it. For sure updates to the profile are required so I'll get to that later this morning. The pic is nice and recent so no, you're not looking at me when I was 20, in the Marines, running a 6:30 mile. So in anticipation of the status of things I've started looking around and it looks like there are quite a few like minded folks in my area. Fortunately, I'm patient, secure and quite content. But it all has me thinking (what doesn't) what makes for good profiles and just how much is enough to communicate at this level? Today, sexy is "I have a job, the bills are paid and I even get to take in good coffee, a few shows :) or is there more? There's the question of what am I today and what do I desire for the future for myself. There's the question of what do I desire from future friends and partners, be they casual or more serious. No doubt, honesty with self and with what's communicated is the best filtering mechanism at the immediate level. That's the easy stuff. What I'd like is to hear from all of you. What do you look for and what do you consider the most desireable aspects of each other and of yourselves? Get into specifics as much as you are comfortable and let's share info, compare notes and get a conversation going. That's the most enjoyable part of the blogspace I've found, I hope you find it so as well.
Well folks, for those of you that know me know that I'm taking things as I usually do, head on. So here's the progress report. Negotiations are moving along as I intended. I cannot get into the specifics but I can say that everything is civil, we are meeting with agreement and there are very few concessions, all of which are acceptable. No surprises. This is the product of education, planning and the application of the study that I've made of civil litigation. When this is over, look for the blogs. There is so much to put out there that quite a few of you will find more than just interesting. The information will serve many well. It's the only thing I feel just a little impatient about but (long sigh) everything is an excercise in patience. I can say that at 40, got things together, enjoying adventures in the local organic food stores and with the usual culinary research into Indian cuisine (5th curry made last night beef, musrhoom, onion all from the raw seasonings) still geek out over everything that catches my interest and most importantly raising the two boys here, although I don't think they will quite conquer the planet. We're working on this though so stay tuned. Still advising my stepdaughter from afar while she embarks on adventures in adulthood and study at university and all the usual social experiences that come of this (cringe...please be careful sweetie!) All the while managing a career in public sector that spans 15 years and growing. Professionally, I'm venturing into territory that I've long been preparing for but that is proving to be difficult to make a break into due to recent changes in the system. I'm getting along and here too is an excercise in patience and frustration. Mostly self generated but only because of the passion I have for it. For sure updates to the profile are required so I'll get to that later this morning. The pic is nice and recent so no, you're not looking at me when I was 20, in the Marines, running a 6:30 mile. So in anticipation of the status of things I've started looking around and it looks like there are quite a few like minded folks in my area. Fortunately, I'm patient, secure and quite content. But it all has me thinking (what doesn't) what makes for good profiles and just how much is enough to communicate at this level? Today, sexy is "I have a job, the bills are paid and I even get to take in good coffee, a few shows :) or is there more? There's the question of what am I today and what do I desire for the future for myself. There's the question of what do I desire from future friends and partners, be they casual or more serious. No doubt, honesty with self and with what's communicated is the best filtering mechanism at the immediate level. That's the easy stuff. What I'd like is to hear from all of you. What do you look for and what do you consider the most desireable aspects of each other and of yourselves? Get into specifics as much as you are comfortable and let's share info, compare notes and get a conversation going. That's the most enjoyable part of the blogspace I've found, I hope you find it so as well.
Marriage after 5 minutes... oh HELL No!!!! Not even 5 months. I'm as certain about the time and effort it takes to really know a person as I am that the sun will rise again on the morrow. (Unlike the South, who lost, and won't rise again... feel that burn, sting, gawd that never get's old). Finding that right blend of common ground while at the same time the differences that make a person special. Much like seeing that girl for the first time when kids and you get that deer in the headlights stare, kinda goofy, starstruck pose where everything in the universe gets turned down except for that person. Ok, enough of that for now. Listening to the Magnetic Fields now so my brain gets shifted to that mode. Some of you will definitely relate.
Marriage after 5 minutes... oh HELL No!!!! Not even 5 months. I'm as certain about the time and effort it takes to really know a person as I am that the sun will rise again on the morrow. (Unlike the South, who lost, and won't rise again... feel that burn, sting, gawd that never get's old). Finding that right blend of common ground while at the same time the differences that make a person special. Much like seeing that girl for the first time when kids and you get that deer in the headlights stare, kinda goofy, starstruck pose where everything in the universe gets turned down except for that person. Ok, enough of that for now. Listening to the Magnetic Fields now so my brain gets shifted to that mode. Some of you will definitely relate.
I have always liked your profile. You are just as you revealed yourself to be. I make a killer Lamb Vindaloo myself. It does take about a half hour to grind all the spices, but fresh is so well worth it! :) I think people should but in their blogs their real selves and real interests and hobbies. Why not be real? You're great the way you are. The only thing I would add is yes, what you are looking for but you have to figure that out first. Do you want friendly dating and fun, experimental swinging, dating for the purpose of finding a steady or partner or just an activity partner (or casual sex)? It sure is creepy when a guy says he wants a date and within the first 5 minutes he's already wanting to marry you. Just be clear about what you want right now, stick to it until you've played the field a bit and maybe figure out if that's good or if your motives are different. Make sence? Otherwise, I wouldn't add a thing exception of marital status.
I have always liked your profile. You are just as you revealed yourself to be. I make a killer Lamb Vindaloo myself. It does take about a half hour to grind all the spices, but fresh is so well worth it! :) I think people should but in their blogs their real selves and real interests and hobbies. Why not be real? You're great the way you are. The only thing I would add is yes, what you are looking for but you have to figure that out first. Do you want friendly dating and fun, experimental swinging, dating for the purpose of finding a steady or partner or just an activity partner (or casual sex)? It sure is creepy when a guy says he wants a date and within the first 5 minutes he's already wanting to marry you. Just be clear about what you want right now, stick to it until you've played the field a bit and maybe figure out if that's good or if your motives are different. Make sence? Otherwise, I wouldn't add a thing exception of marital status.
Why, thanks, Fierce. I got to see off one of my friends as he makes his way back to Hyderabad on an annual vacation to meet up with his family. Good travel to him. He's shared a few dishes and recipes along with something you don't always get, technique. So along with the currys I'm delving into that vindaloo and butter chicken by request. I'll bring some into the job when he gets back. I will post a step by step set of instructions with pics soon, just that this site isn't really conducive to that. But I can direct folks to other sites that do recipes and how to's if any of you request them! That's a good point you bring up about a profile stating the likes rather than the dislikes. There's a nice way to communicate one's overall focus, "glass half full"-like, does a person accentuate the positive, etc.
Why, thanks, Fierce. I got to see off one of my friends as he makes his way back to Hyderabad on an annual vacation to meet up with his family. Good travel to him. He's shared a few dishes and recipes along with something you don't always get, technique. So along with the currys I'm delving into that vindaloo and butter chicken by request. I'll bring some into the job when he gets back. I will post a step by step set of instructions with pics soon, just that this site isn't really conducive to that. But I can direct folks to other sites that do recipes and how to's if any of you request them! That's a good point you bring up about a profile stating the likes rather than the dislikes. There's a nice way to communicate one's overall focus, "glass half full"-like, does a person accentuate the positive, etc.
so glad I read this blog,but reading yours are a given htpn as they are always interesting....thanks fierce for your kind words,they really mean something to me and I hope one day we can go for a drink sometime too....the best things to come out of being on here are the friends Ive made.....meeting G was so special and im so glad to have him as my friend
but to get back to the point of the blog.... although my penchant was for artists or bad boys(stereotypical I know) what I look for most in someone is honesty and knowing I can be myself with them.......thought had found it but not so sure right now
so glad I read this blog,but reading yours are a given htpn as they are always interesting....thanks fierce for your kind words,they really mean something to me and I hope one day we can go for a drink sometime too....the best things to come out of being on here are the friends Ive made.....meeting G was so special and im so glad to have him as my friend
but to get back to the point of the blog.... although my penchant was for artists or bad boys(stereotypical I know) what I look for most in someone is honesty and knowing I can be myself with them.......thought had found it but not so sure right now
all I want is to be more like me,less like you.....
indian cuisine?!--now you're talking! i'll have vindaloo or saag...wow! the way to a woman's heart is through her stomach! (well, not really but, wow!, indian!) i say you should put up pictures of your indian creations! *drools*
what makes a good profile? basically one that doesn't leave it at "any questions just ask!" *rolls eyes*.
today's sexy: as noodles has pointed out more than a few times, and as anyone remotely aware of the state of things, yes, the man (or woman) who is stable is a little more alluring than the funboys and girls of the early 2000's.
for real though, the profiles i like touch on the things the person enjoys (even the things they don't enjoy...at all), their past times, what they're looking for. all put together a little bit artistically and maybe laced with a little humor (i prefer the dry kind that many don't seem to get, but of course, the profile should reflect the person it is about). i feel like it should contain enough to offer a peek into the person, enough that it could inspire a few email topics with someone new and turn off undesirables.
my most valuable parts: the intangible part of me that i consider most valuable is one i don't advertise beyond my screen name. i'm good at relationships, at working things out and through, at communicating, at supporting, standing by and being faithful to the person i'm with. if i say "i love you"...that means "I Love you". i also feel like i'm fairly open minded and easy to get along with. lastly, i think i'm beginning to learn that my career choice is an asset. i'm a little bit fanciful (read: wild) and slightly creative and don't hold to most of the paradigms that society places on us.
however, i can be introverted to a fault, can be cagey and have used my preference of dry humor as a weapon, especially on the jerks who (in my mind) deserve it and don't get it. i absolutely cannot stand strong personalities who are so self-assured that they can't understand or are unwilling to see that there is light years of differences between your life and theirs...and can't deal with constantly negative people...they must be removed from my life or i from theirs. i'm a worrier, i get stressed out and it shows through in neuroticism (which you can see in my blogs).
i need a strong, stable person full of depth of passion. they need to enjoy exploring and communicating in all facets.
i'm going to talk about dudie because i think she's beautiful. she's always sweet and kind, she seems open but grounded and sensitive. although i'm sure she doesn't need anyone to fight for her, i'd love to be her safehouse and to pique her mind about this or that while getting a drink somewhere...she's taurus and from what i know of her, it fits her (i have this fondness for taurus anyway), which i think is a high complement. beautiful creatures.
and noodles, who i probably know the best out of all the GM bloggers. noodles is someone who i wish lived across town. we are *VERY* different people with almost opposite ways of thinking at times, but i'm grateful for the presence that he has in my life. smart, witty and has a big heart and willing to help out if he can. i've learned a few things from him that i feel are valuable and while i haven't quite integrated those things into my life as much as i want to, (these lessons will take time), he's patient with me and kind, but no doormat and i appreciate his ability to always find the silver lining and his silliness. i still smile when i get a text or phone call from him. he may not know this, but i talk to him about things that i don't talk to *anyone* else about.
mo-who i don't know as well as i'd like but well enough to miss when he's not around. mo kind of reminds me of a bull in a china shop and is another taurean. i dig his punk-ness but also his sensitivity...he's loud but actually gives a damn with his big heart.
bladewing: who i hardly know at all, always gives blogs and responses that seem full of feeling. i feel like he's touched with the gray that haunts so many of us and maybe at times, frayed around the edges, but will be d@mned to let that stop him. i enjoy reading his thoughts and would like to sit around the fire with at 3 AM. he always conjures up a vision of a lone wolf in the night.
and you, htpn: seem to know a little bit about everything...and what you contribute is valuable to me as i take into consideration what you type. you seem to make time for people, even if it's just a quick "hey, are you alright?"
wolfsbane100 and samdei: i enjoy their witty comments and wish they would post more.
camo: always adds in a curious flavor and seems sensitive and thoughtful.
ravenmad: i like that she posts about real issues from time to time. she strikes me as being real, upfront, but not lacking so much in tact that her frankness would turn someone off. i feel like getting to know her softer side would be a great gift.
indian cuisine?!--now you're talking! i'll have vindaloo or saag...wow! the way to a woman's heart is through her stomach! (well, not really but, wow!, indian!) i say you should put up pictures of your indian creations! *drools*
what makes a good profile? basically one that doesn't leave it at "any questions just ask!" *rolls eyes*.
today's sexy: as noodles has pointed out more than a few times, and as anyone remotely aware of the state of things, yes, the man (or woman) who is stable is a little more alluring than the funboys and girls of the early 2000's.
for real though, the profiles i like touch on the things the person enjoys (even the things they don't enjoy...at all), their past times, what they're looking for. all put together a little bit artistically and maybe laced with a little humor (i prefer the dry kind that many don't seem to get, but of course, the profile should reflect the person it is about). i feel like it should contain enough to offer a peek into the person, enough that it could inspire a few email topics with someone new and turn off undesirables.
my most valuable parts: the intangible part of me that i consider most valuable is one i don't advertise beyond my screen name. i'm good at relationships, at working things out and through, at communicating, at supporting, standing by and being faithful to the person i'm with. if i say "i love you"...that means "I Love you". i also feel like i'm fairly open minded and easy to get along with. lastly, i think i'm beginning to learn that my career choice is an asset. i'm a little bit fanciful (read: wild) and slightly creative and don't hold to most of the paradigms that society places on us.
however, i can be introverted to a fault, can be cagey and have used my preference of dry humor as a weapon, especially on the jerks who (in my mind) deserve it and don't get it. i absolutely cannot stand strong personalities who are so self-assured that they can't understand or are unwilling to see that there is light years of differences between your life and theirs...and can't deal with constantly negative people...they must be removed from my life or i from theirs. i'm a worrier, i get stressed out and it shows through in neuroticism (which you can see in my blogs).
i need a strong, stable person full of depth of passion. they need to enjoy exploring and communicating in all facets.
i'm going to talk about dudie because i think she's beautiful. she's always sweet and kind, she seems open but grounded and sensitive. although i'm sure she doesn't need anyone to fight for her, i'd love to be her safehouse and to pique her mind about this or that while getting a drink somewhere...she's taurus and from what i know of her, it fits her (i have this fondness for taurus anyway), which i think is a high complement. beautiful creatures.
and noodles, who i probably know the best out of all the GM bloggers. noodles is someone who i wish lived across town. we are *VERY* different people with almost opposite ways of thinking at times, but i'm grateful for the presence that he has in my life. smart, witty and has a big heart and willing to help out if he can. i've learned a few things from him that i feel are valuable and while i haven't quite integrated those things into my life as much as i want to, (these lessons will take time), he's patient with me and kind, but no doormat and i appreciate his ability to always find the silver lining and his silliness. i still smile when i get a text or phone call from him. he may not know this, but i talk to him about things that i don't talk to *anyone* else about.
mo-who i don't know as well as i'd like but well enough to miss when he's not around. mo kind of reminds me of a bull in a china shop and is another taurean. i dig his punk-ness but also his sensitivity...he's loud but actually gives a damn with his big heart.
bladewing: who i hardly know at all, always gives blogs and responses that seem full of feeling. i feel like he's touched with the gray that haunts so many of us and maybe at times, frayed around the edges, but will be d@mned to let that stop him. i enjoy reading his thoughts and would like to sit around the fire with at 3 AM. he always conjures up a vision of a lone wolf in the night.
and you, htpn: seem to know a little bit about everything...and what you contribute is valuable to me as i take into consideration what you type. you seem to make time for people, even if it's just a quick "hey, are you alright?"
wolfsbane100 and samdei: i enjoy their witty comments and wish they would post more.
camo: always adds in a curious flavor and seems sensitive and thoughtful.
ravenmad: i like that she posts about real issues from time to time. she strikes me as being real, upfront, but not lacking so much in tact that her frankness would turn someone off. i feel like getting to know her softer side would be a great gift.
You might tie my hands to the wall but you can't tie my dreams to this place.
